Sharing my learning, insight and experience on all things mental health and wellbeing…
Understanding Children's Behavioural Challenges: A Family Systems Perspective
Children's behavioural challenges are often viewed through a narrow perspective of individual problems. But what if these behaviors are actually profound messages about family dynamics?
Pain in life is unavoidable, however the pain we create avoiding pain, is avoidable.
Pain in life is unavoidable, however, the pain we create trying to avoid pain is avoidable.
Unravelling the Subjugated Stories caused by Family Trauma
When stress, anxiety, or frustration arises, individuals may find themselves responding in ways they don't fully understand. These coping strategies might not be direct responses to personal experiences but instead inherited from the coping mechanisms of their ancestors.
The Window of Tolerance
The window of tolerance is a helpful way to make sense of what we are experiencing when we're are effected by trauma, stress and the subsequent emotional dysregulation.
The ‘black sheep’ of the family
Those who are constantly seeking to revolutionise beliefs go in in contrast to roads marked by Family traditions.
What happens when we focus on child ‘mental illness’ and not on the whole family’s lived experience?
"3 children in every classroom will suffer from a diagnosable mental illness", why do they not say that 3 children in every classroom may be living with loss, family breakdown, parental mental health difficulties (often caused by parent’s childhood trauma), bullying, poverty, abuse, redundancy or anything which may cause distress within a family? After all, there can be recovery in all these issues.
The Castle, how life experiences shape us
This brick wall can be a metaphor for our life.
Let’s pretend the book placed at the bottom of this wall represents adversity, trauma, and small, and yet significant life challenges.
If we do not acknowledge and process it, we will have no choice but to adapt around it.
Anxiety and relationships
In my many years of working with people, I have observed something quite interesting in relation to being anxious. I have learnt that an individual will carry the symptoms of anxiety, as listed above, but will not often understand the root cause of their suffering is often located within their relationships.